It started back in 2007 when I and a few friends of mine were planning a trip to Niagara Falls. I knew about the existance of this guy before that from orkut, but didn’t really know him. I chatted with him a few times and knew he was fascinated by multiple girls in his friend circle and was trying hard to hook up with all of them at the same time and failing. During these conversations he created an image of himself as such a sincere an honest person and I really believed him. It so happened that he was doing an internship in New Jersey when we were going to Niagara and he too decided to join us at Niagara…little did I know that this was his scheme of capturing me into his DIRTY AND PERVERTED plan!! That is where I met this guy who was so evil that he took advantage of me for the next 2.5 yrs, used me for his pleasure, took my help for his personal and professional development, and then abused me to get rid of me so he could marry the woman who fulfilled his and his family’s criteria of a ‘perfect Indian wife’!! He was so evil that he apparently knew this woman all along and knew what his long term plans were. He made sure he didn’t waste his money on me….he made me spend my money when we went for travelling, made me pay for hotels, gas, sight seeing, restaurants, and even talked me into buying expensive gifts for him!!. I was such a fool that I kept thinking that it was practically the same whether he paid for these or me, because ‘our’ trip and ‘our’ expenses, and I never hesitated to spend the money. I was such a fool that I never realized that he was actually saving up to start his life when he was done using me with another woman whom he was ‘maintaining’ back in India!! How can a man be so cunning??? I went out of my way to help him out in so many ways….and his conscience never bothered him that he was doing this fraud with me!!
Throughout these 2.5 yrs he kept on giving me the impression that his family was not accepting me and so he couldn’t get married to me. He kept telling me that he was trying to convince them to accept me. In his guileful plan, he didn’t even hesitate to involve my parents!! Back in 2007 when he went to India, he asked me to inform my parents about the relation. Apparently that would help him convince his parents! I was naive and I did as he asked thinking that would help to take our relation to the next level. Soon after reaching India he started to stage the drama that his parents were against the marriage. He even refused to meet my parents when they were excited about my relation and wanted to meet him. Eventually after a lot of arguments he did go and meet my parents. He made sure that I ask my parents not to talk about our wedding with him. This probably made it easier for him to carry on the conversation. Discussing our wedding with my parents would probably bring out his intentions!
When he returned to the US, he created his deceptive story about his family being against the wedding and he trying his best to change their opinion, and I should ’stand by his side’ to help him…of course I should…that would let him have access to my body!!!! I was ready to back out of the relation at that time. But he told me a bunch of crap and artfully convinced me otherwise so he could derive physical pleasure for the next 2 yrs till he went home to marry the woman who was ‘wife material’ by his standards.
During these two years there were several instances where the fact that my parents were supportive of his marriage and his intentions were something totally devious, created tension. In addition, he had this whole suite of female ‘wellwishers’ (WIVES OF HIS FRIENDS, probably did not get enough attention from their husbands!) who kept advising him on his personal matters. Apparently he had more trust on these women than on me and would follow whatever they said, even when it was against my wishes! I should have realized that such a guy who trusts his friends’ wives more than his partner doesn’t actually consider me his partner! Every time there was an issue about the interference of his female advisers, he would come back and tell me a bunch of ‘crap’ and get me back into his trap! He was such a pervert that he would go and spend nights with his friend when her husband was travelling!! If I questioned that, he would pretend to be innocent! And when his best friend’s wife woke up in the morning and didn’t find her husband at home (he had already gone to the lab because it was 1PM), she would ask him to come over to the house to give her company…such perverts!!
Last year (around June 2008) we had a major breakup primarily because of these female friends of his. After our breakup he continued to ’stalk’ me through a common ‘friend’. I hesitate to use the word friend because she knew a lot about what was going on, yet she showed loyalty to him, although she apparently claimed to be my friend too!!…..I wouldn’t call that friendship! When he came to know that I will be spending 4 months in California this year for an internship, his pervert mind became active all again. He realized that this was a good opportunity for him to have constant access to physical pleasure…for free….he was such a CHEAP person that he wouldn’t pay for it! He again staged a crafty drama about how repentant he is and how much he values me and wants to get back to the relation! While he was doing this, his family was already getting ready to get him married to the sister in law of his batchmate…the woman who had existed all along, but I didn’t know about it!!!
I was a fool yet again and I patched up with him. Throughout Jan, 09, he continued to have ‘fun’ with me. Towards the end of Jan he was going to India again. Right before he went to India I realized that his family had been making his wedding plans. When I questioned him about this, he started abusing me for not ‘trusting’ him!! Then I insisted that I wanted to talk to his parents. Throughout these 2.5yrs, his family never showed any interest in knowing the woman their son was dating….and why would they? They knew very well that their son would come home at the end of the day and get married to another woman…they knew I was his play material…his entertainment while he was living on his own in US….but he would come home and get married to that woman and bring back his wife one day..A WHOLE FAMILY OF CHEATS!!!!
He kept on abusing me before going to India and even after reaching there! When I insisted that I wanted to speak to his family, he set up a telephone conversation with his sister (not his parents!). When she started talking, I realized that all she was trying to do was to get rid of me. She told me nasty and mean things on the phone while this guy was standing right next to her!! This guy never objected to anything she said, and instead abused me later on because apparently I was rude to her. He had earlier assured me that if his family says anything nasty, then he will talk on my behalf and I shouldn’t say anything. I was again a fool and trusted him!! After this conversation I tried to reason with him on the phone and emails…but he just kept on abusing me. This was right before Valentine’s day. Then on V-day weekend he sent me some of the meanest emails. I realized that this was a ploy to get rid of me because his family already had wedding plans for him. What I didn’t know is that the story about his family not accepting me is FAKE. If a guy loves his partner he will remain loyal to his partner whether his family accepts her or not. His family knew that he wasn’t going to marry me, ever; he was only having fun with me. He was going to get married to friend’s sister in law. That is why they never even talked to me, and that is why he kept painting the picture that his family is against our wedding!
After all the humiliation throughout Jan and Feb, I backed out of the relation, and then that guy had the audacity to send me an email at the end of Feb telling me that I was responsible for making me angry which lead to him abusing me….it was all my fault!! He was back in US at this time and I was still in California. So he was probably HORNY and wanted to get some more physical pleasure!! I didn’t respond to this email and so he went about telling my friends that I am uncompromising, I didn’t want marriage, I am rigid, and so on. I suppose it hurt his ego that I didn’t respond to his email and that my friends told him that I was doing ‘fine’, and was not depressed. He even called up a friend of mine in March and then in May saying he is so depressed about me.
In March, he puts up a profile on Bharat Matrimony. He is so shameless that he uses sentences copied out of the cv that I prepared for him to create his BM profile!! I guess he is a perfectionist in his DEVIOUS ventures! He pretended that he was going to find a wife through this matrimonial service. He probably didn’t realize that the world is too small I would find out the reality about how he found his wife from his friends!!! Towards the end of June he posts an album of pics ‘XYZ my fiancee’ on orkut. One of my friends (the one whom he called up in May to say he is depressed), was shocked to see that the guy who was so ‘depressed’ a month back is engaged!! I guess he knew that my friends would inform me and so he posted these pics on orkut to RELISH the effect it would have on me. Couple of weeks later (July 14, to be exact) he gets married. Right before his wedding I send him a couple of emails to which he responded several days later on the day before his wedding. He said that he still misses me, that his wife thinks I am his love and she is just his wife (=tool for having sex and producing babies?), and that he was always committed to me and he loves me!! It is unbelievable that a guy getting married to another woman can write such emails the day before his wedding! He was still sticking to the story that he was depressed and then angry that I didn’t respond to his emails and so he picked up a girl from Bharat Matrimony! This guy is so sick that he sends emotional emails to his ex gf the day before his wedding!! He was a CHEAT BF….and he will be a CHEAT HUSBAND!!
Before and after the wedding, his wife kept posting numerous intimate pictures of them on their dates. I suppose she needed to send the message to me that this guy now belongs to her! She was aware of my existence all the time, but I guess women like that don’t care if their husbands sleep around with other women. All they care about is that they get to come to the US and see dollars, but they don’t want to put in the effort of taking GRE or applying for jobs. Putting on makeup, wearing short dresses, and offering their bodies to appeal to the pervert desires of men like this guy is a lot easier to them! I suppose that is what is called SELLING THE HOLE FOR A TICKET TO USA! They never even think about how their motives and actions are destroying the lives of other women! Over the next several weeks he and his wife kept posting pictures on orkut for my visual pleasure!! They posted these pictures in unlocked albums to make sure that I can see them and they can relish in the thought that I would be devastated seeing these picturess.
Few weeks after the wedding I came to know that this girl whom he married is the sister in law of his batchmate. She wasn’t picked up from Bharat Matrimony, but he knew her all along! So this guy faked the relationship with me for 2.5yrs. He was so pervert that he couldn’t control his ‘desires’ till he got married to this girl. He was so cheap that he wouldn’t spend money to fulfil his ‘urge’!! So he faked a relationship with me! I went out of my way to help him in various aspects of his life…….. helping him settle in his appartment, organizing his room, helping him learn driving, getting his driver’s license, buying his car, writing his cv and research statement, and so on. I spent so much money when I was with him. I never realized that he had such plans and so he wasn’t ‘investing’ money on me. He was trying to extort all he could from me! I was a fool to have trusted this cheat and to have wasted my resources on him!! In return he used me, abused me, and totally destroyed my self-respect. But I suppose he was using him to prepare himself and ‘groom’ himself so that he can be the dream NRI husband for that woman who was waiting for him in India! I was only a play material for him, and along with that he extorted all he could from me!
